Reality Roundtable 27
An Ecological Psychology: Internal Family Systems for a Turbulent World
Description
Most of us were taught to treat emotions like distress, numbness, and burnout as private failings to manage and move past, rather than normal responses to living within a world full of crises. The unintended result is a distrust in our own bodies and mind, further leading to more confusion about what is ‘normal.’ One framework offers a potential path to living in harmony with all of the mind’s distinct parts, breaking the defensive and counterproductive loops we tend to get stuck in. What sort of systemic ripples might become possible if we stop trying to smother uncomfortable parts of ourselves, and begin embracing them as critical pieces of our own mental ecologies?
In this episode, Nate is joined by Dr. Richard C. Schwartz, the therapist who developed Internal Family Systems (IFS), and Steffi Bednarek, a climate psychologist applying that same model to organizations, governments, and culture at large. Dick walks through the origins of IFS, which describes the mind as naturally made up of “parts” – protectors, exiles, firefighters, and the Self – with their own histories, fears, and roles. Steffi extends the model outward to show how institutions and even entire countries can be read as systems of exiles and protectors, and shares how she uses IFS with governments, financial institutions, and wealth holders to defuse shame and effectively guide toward pro-social behavioral change. Together, they explore why healing our relationship to our own most despised parts may be inseparable from healing our relationship to the rest of the living world.
How can looking inward to our own thought processes and patterns help us better understand and relate to others, especially those whose behavior we find hardest to accept? As we continue through challenging times, how can we balance critical physical and policy work with the internal work of healing our relationship to the mental parts we shy away from? And would our decisions and actions change if more and more humans began to lead from curiosity and compassion, instead of fear, and could that be enough to shift the larger system?
About Richard C. Schwartz
Richard C. Schwartz, PhD, is the creator of Internal Family Systems, a highly effective, therapeutic model with a growing evidence base, that de-pathologizes the multi-part personality. Richard is also the Founder of the IFS Institute that primarily offers training for professionals. He is currently a Teaching Associate in Psychiatry, at Cambridge Health Alliance, a Harvard Medical School teaching affiliate. Richard has authored or co-authored more than ten books on Internal Family Systems and related topics, including No Bad Parts and Internal Family Systems Therapy. He lives near Chicago with his wife Jeanne, Vice President of the IFS Institute, close to his three daughters and six grandchildren.
About Steffi Bednarek
Steffi Bednarek is a gestalt psychotherapist, trauma therapist, and climate psychologist. Her work explores the interface between climate change and mental health. With twenty-five years of experience in depth psychology, complexity thinking, climate psychology, and grief tending, Bednarek has worked for national governments and global institutions to prepare leaders and organizations for the psychological dimension of climate change in decision-making processes. Her work has been featured in the Huffington Post, BBC, David Milliband’s “Reasons to be cheerful” podcast and numerous international publications. She is the co-founder of “Explorations into Climate Psychology” journal and an associate member of the American Psychological Association’s climate change group.
Show Notes & Links to Learn More
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Dick Schwartz, IFS Institute, Works
- Featured Books: No Bad Parts, Internal Family Systems Workbook
Steffi Bednarek, Centre for Climate Psychology, Works
- Featured Book: Climate, Psychology, and Change (editor)
Grab-and-Go Resources:
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
- The IFS Model Outline
- IFS Glossary
- IFS Workbook and Books
- IFS Therapist Training
- IFS Foundations for Coaches
Centre for Climate Psychology
- Systems Wayfinding – IFS for Social Transformation
- Artwork by Alan Boldon that Steffi shows during the interview
Resources by Timestamp:
03:54 – Internal Family Systems, Evidence base for IFS, The IFS Model Outline
04:22 – The language of parts
04:27 – Subpersonalities, Multiplicity
04:41 – Attachment injury, Childhood trauma
04:57 – Burdens in IFS
06:50 – Exile parts in IFS
07:23 – Manager parts in IFS and the ego
08:12 – Firefighter parts in IFS
08:24 – The Self in IFS
08:32 – The inner critic
08:58 – Polarization between parts, Triangulation in family systems
09:36 – Qualities of Self: calm, curiosity, compassion, confidence, clarity, courage, connectedness, creativity
09:54 – Unburdening
11:21 – Climate psychology
11:45 – Anthropocentrism
12:05 – Place attachment
13:25 – The human predicament
14:16 – Living systems theory, Systems literacy
15:07 – Hyperobjects
15:24 – IFS training worldwide
15:40 – The external family and the internal family
17:04 – Modularity of mind
17:44 – Planetary boundaries
19:21 – Scapegoating
19:45 – Ecological grief, Solastalgia
20:27 – Climate anxiety
21:12 – Leverage points in systems
21:28 – Pathologizing climate distress
21:43 – Monoculture
22:32 – Disenfranchised grief
22:56 – Denial
24:08 – Mindfulness and Witness consciousness
25:50 – Disavowal
27:08 – Compartmentalization
28:12 – Shame and blame in climate communication
28:45 – Psychological reactance
29:20 – Political polarization
30:18 – Psychohistory, Isaac Asimov
31:07 – The more-than-human predicament
31:34 – Human development theories: Integral theory, Ego development theory
32:21 – Parts and the body in IFS, Felt sense
33:33 – AI therapy chatbots
35:30 – Xiye Bastida, Youth climate activism (The Great Simplification Ep 208)
36:59 – Medusa
38:13 – Unblending from a part
39:00 – The Wild Edge of Sorrow
39:44 – Martin Shaw
40:14 – Activist burnout, Compassion fatigue
42:29 – Parentification
43:24 – Neurodiversity in the metacrisis
44:40 – Economic Superorganism (Frankly #97)
45:28 – Growth imperative, The Limits to Growth
46:40 – Global inequality between countries
47:06 – Systems Wayfinding – IFS for Social Transformation
50:14 – Hitting rock bottom as a precondition for change
51:04 – Fractals and Self Similarity
51:42 – Organizational silos
51:59 – Epistemic injustice, Indigenous and local knowledge systems
52:31 – Fascism
53:07 – Talking across political divides: Braver Angels
54:29 – Alan Boldon, co-founder of weave, Art as a way into difficult conversations
54:55 – *2.1% of global philanthropic giving goes to climate
55:36 – The symbolic power of money
57:10 – Return on investment
58:01 – Becoming a good ancestor
59:36 – IFS Foundations for Coaches
59:46 – Trickle-down economics vs. Emotional contagion
1:00:36 – Dark Triad: Narcissism, Machiavellianism, Psychopathy (Reality Roundtable 19)
1:03:29 – Public choice theory, The Consumption Pyramid (Frankly 123)
1:04:53 – Double bind
1:05:26 – Coaching industry
1:06:36 – Parental leave in Sweden, ”the daddy quota”
1:08:44 – Loss aversion
1:11:10 – The U-turn in IFS
1:11:48 – Co-regulation
1:12:23 – Francis Weller, Communal grief rituals (The Great Simplification ep 167)
1:13:29 – The five gates of grief, Ancestral grief
1:14:02 – Steffi’s referenced quote on a culture that has lost its soul
1:14:08 – The spiritual dimension of IFS
1:15:32 – Buddha-nature, Atman, Christ consciousness
1:16:17 – Oceanic feeling, Brahman, Nonduality
1:16:30 – Psychedelics and ego dissolution, Long-term meditation
1:17:58 – Carl Jung, Depth psychology
1:18:06 – Soul in depth psychology, Anima mundi
1:18:46 – The imaginal
1:19:22 – Donna Haraway, Staying with the Trouble
1:19:39 – Individuation
1:20:58 – Thich Nhat Hanh, Interbeing
1:21:42 – The Shamanic Journey
1:23:17 – Unattached burdens and guides in IFS
1:24:00 – Philemon, Collective unconscious
1:24:39 – The Great Simplification, Coming off the fossil fuel peak
1:25:43 – Biodiversity loss
1:26:52 – Hospice care, Hospicing modernity (The Great Simplification ep 125)
1:27:21 – Ritual containers for collective grief
1:28:41 – Gregory Bateson, Second-order change
1:29:24 – Rebuildable energy
1:31:59 – Social tipping points, 25% critical mass threshold
1:32:41 – Elderhood, Seventh generation principle
1:32:58 – Feedback loops
1:33:57 – No Bad Parts
1:35:53 – Ecological education for children: Center for Ecoliteracy